In the family of my friends joy - a long-awaited child was born. Happiness that accompanies a similar event, there was a price for long reflection, treatment, caution of doctors, anxiety. The child was born ahead of time, doctors did everything to keep the life of this little man.
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In the family of my friends joy – Born long-awaited child. Happiness that accompanies such an event, there was a price of long reflection, treatment, caution of doctors, alarms. The child was born ahead of time, doctors did everything to keep the life of this little man.
And now ordinary weekdays. Days in the days, months in months, the boy was grew, he drove, slept, something leptal, pleased his parents. Up to three years, he did not differ from his peers, unless he stubbornly did not want to pronounce the simplest words, but communicated on his own, only his understandable, language. Parents appealed to doctors, but they did not reveal any deviations. And after three years, a terrible diagnosis was made – dementia.
Dementia
Dementia – This is a congenital or acquired disease in the early years of life, manifested in the underdevelopment of the whole psyche, but mainly intelligence. Children with such a diagnosis need constant supervision and care. Unfortunately, in most cases, severe disabled diseases of children are not always possible in time to diagnose. Timely diagnosis should be an important aspect when monitoring such children, as the earlier the disease will be detected, the faster and more effective will be treated.
Couple to learn this diagnosis, experienced a large emotional stress and a whole range of negative emotions. They survived everything that happens in such situations - at first there was a shock, confusion, helplessness, fear and a permanent question: «Why it happened to us?». Then the throwing began, parents consulted with many doctors in the hope that experts are not always competent and may be mistaken in the diagnosis. They really hoped that their child was not sick.
There was time, and all the disease appeared very clearly. The parents stood a difficult task, survive the feeling of bitterness and change their own expectations and attitudes towards a sick child, on the one hand and the inability to change the biological and emotional child status on the other. Gradually, psychological reorganization began in the family, adaptation, adoption of a patient child. Father emotionally did not leave this situation, and together with his mother were more and more involved in the education of the child.
Proper education of the child
The correct education of the child with intellectual disabilities in the family is possible only when parents, and especially mom, manage to preserve an emotional balance in such a stressful situation, clearly understand the problem and to fully form a promising rehabilitation program. The decisive role in the development and early education of children with mental retardation is played by such stimulating factors as permanent communication, music, games, vivid impressions. They also need systematic classes for mental and physical development in all areas, while they need great assistance from parents and other family members.
People with dementia rarely can be found in life, as most of them are in psychiatric clinics or disabled homes. This family more than once was offered to send a child to a specialized institution, but its decision was such: «While we are, the child will live in the family. We will do our best to ensure that the child is adapted to the terms of our life».
Adaptation
Passing all the available treatments, the family tirelessly from the first years of the child's life was engaged in adaptation. They paid great attention to the mental development of the Son, they have formed knowledge, skills, skills necessary for adult life. Because, it is the first years that are the most important in the formation of the psyche and the formation of the relationship between children with the environment. Parents understood that the fate of their son, which had features of intellectual development depends on the skills of independent existence.
In this family, the mutual influence of parents on the child and the child on parents. In the process of upbringing, the mother learned the three main skills:
- skill actively listen, t.E. hear that the child wants to say to parents;
- the ability to express their own feelings and thoughts in an adequacy available for understanding;
- The ability to use the principle «Both right» When resolving controversial issues, t.E. Talking to the Son so that both participants are satisfied with the results of the conversation.
Biological inferiority puts a child into certain conditions of development and makes increased demands for parents who are designed in this situation to contribute to the adaptation of it to these conditions. Education of the child with deviations in intellectual development should be corrective, that is, aimed at overcoming the current disorders and to prevent the possibility of their occurrence in the future.
