In the family the joy of my friends - was bornlong-awaited child. The happiness that accompanies such an event, was given to them at the cost of much speculation, medications, doctors' warnings, alarms. The baby was born prematurely, doctors did everything to save the life of this little man.
And for ordinary weekdays. As the days passed after day, month after month, the boy grew up, ate, slept, babbled something, pleased parents. Up to three years, he was no different from their peers, except that stubbornly did not want to utter the simplest of words, but communicated to her, only he can understand, the language. The parents appealed to the doctors, but they did not reveal any abnormalities. And after three years it was a terrifying diagnosis - dementia.
Dementia - a congenital or acquired infirst years of life the disease, which manifests itself in the underdevelopment of the whole psyche, but mostly intelligence. Children with this diagnosis need constant supervision and care. Unfortunately, in most cases, severe disabling disease of children is not always time to diagnose. Timely diagnosis should be an important aspect of the observation of such children as what disease will be detected earlier, faster and more effective treatment will be.
The couple learned this diagnosis, experiencedgreat emotional stress and a whole range of negative emotions. They have gone through all that happens in such situations - was initially a shock, confusion, helplessness, fear and the constant question: "Why it happened to us?". Then throwing began, the parents consulted many doctors in the hope that the experts do not always competent and can make mistakes in diagnosis. They were hoping that their child is not sick.
As time went on, and all the evident disease. difficult task stood before his parents, to experience the feeling of bitterness and change their own expectations and attitudes towards the sick child on the one hand and the inability to change the biological and emotional status of the child with the other. Gradually the family began a psychological reorganization, adaptation, adoption of a sick child. Father has not left emotionally from the situation, and with his mother more and more involved in the education of the child.
Proper education of the child
Proper education of the child with intellectualdeviations in the family is possible only when parents, especially her mother, manages to maintain emotional balance in such a stressful situation, clearly understand the problem and constantly generate promising rehabilitation program. The decisive role played by such stimulating factors such as constant communication, music, games, thrilling experience in the development and early education of children with mental retardation. They also need regular employment for mental and physical development in all areas, while they need more help from their parents and other family members.
People with dementia are rarely found inlife, as most of them are in psychiatric hospitals or nursing homes. This family has repeatedly offered to send their children to a specialized agency, but its decision was this: "As long as we have, the child will live in a family. We will do everything possible to ensure that the child has been adapted to the conditions of our lives. "
Going through all available therapies, familytirelessly since the first years of a child's life involved his adaptation. They paid great attention to the mental development of a son, he had formed the necessary for the adult independent living skills, abilities, skills. Because, it is the early years are the most important in the formation of the psyche and the formation of relationships of children with the environment. Parents understand that the fate of their son having a particular intellectual development depends on the skills of independent existence.
In this family, there is a mutual influence of parents on the child and the child's parents. In the process of education of the mother learned the three basic skills:
- active listening, ie hear what the child wants to say to parents;
- the ability to express their own thoughts and feelings in an intelligible form of the baby;
- the ability to use the principle of "both right" in the resolution of disputes, ie, talking with his son, so that the results of the conversation were satisfied both parties.
The biological inferiority puts the child incertain conditions of development and placing increased demands on parents, who are called in this situation, to promote his adaptation to the conditions. Parenting a child with disabilities should be corrective in intellectual development, that is aimed at overcoming the currently available violations and to prevent the possibility of their occurrence in the future.