Under the category of disabled children getpreschoolers with a very wide spectrum of congenital and acquired during the early development of diseases and abnormalities. It may be different ugliness and lack of physical development, and can be externally indistinguishable anomalies, which are not suspected patients themselves.
Mental, the mental development of childrenis no different from the development of their peers. Moreover, these children do not age as prudent, they are more likely to have signs of giftedness. For example, during the attacks of asthmatic suffocation write is not nursery rhymes or being confined to a wheelchair, wonderfully molded from clay, making the original drawings. Nature as it compensates for the fact that these kids nedodala.
Preschoolers, even with implicit signsdisability in three or four years of becoming aware of its difference from the surrounding children and adults. Therefore, the formation of their inner self takes on a specific character. In public, disabled children exhibit excessive complaisance, try to do everything as it should be, striving to avoid all sorts of abuses. Thus, they are trying to prove to others that nothing they do not concede that they are not worse than they are.
Children who are in constant contact withinvalids quickly become accustomed to the peculiarities of their appearance and behavior, willing to communicate with them, showing genuine interest. Therefore, the problem mostly lies in the negative installations parents and immediate family members of children with disabilities. Moms and burns these children often feel guilty over their offspring for having failed to reward their full health. Having become protracted, the feeling can be expressed in a particular concern for the fate of her child, ward or excessive over-indulging his whims. Another expression of this problem is the depression that accompanies periods of deterioration of the sick children.
Parents fearful for the fate of the child,pass it on to the child. Intuitively sensing the DC voltage adults, preschoolers acquire the traits of nervousness, frazzle. Painful doubt many mothers and fathers about whether the child knows about their disease and how it is hard, in vain. Indeed, the word "disabled" does not add anything to the daily sensations and experiences of children. From it does not become an understanding of its status neither better nor worse.
Children suffer most from realizing theirinconsistency in something that is the norm for others. They survive because of the numerous prohibitions and continuous exhortations by adults. The public show of humility and obedience of the children can take turns severe tantrums and whims when they are left alone with family and friends. Their rough, sometimes aggressive tricks to parents are reacting to their excessive care, concerns and fears.
The best may be considered such behavioradults, which allows children with disabilities to adapt more quickly to its position, to acquire the features that compensate for their condition. Selfish love of parents who want to protect their offspring from all possible difficulties interfere with their normal development. Disabled children in dire need of parental love, but not love, compassion, altruistic love and taking into account the interests of the child. The kid will not further the easy life, and the more separate and independent it will be, the easier it will be able to transfer all the difficulties and hardships.
Children in question need notprohibitions, and in the stimulation of adaptive activity, the knowledge of its hidden features, the development of special skills and abilities. Of course, ignore the fact that the child is seriously ill, you can not. But to keep it under a glass cover is also out. The smaller the patient's attention will be focused on himself, the greater the likelihood of success and of its interaction with others. If the parents will be able to teach the child to think not only about themselves, then his fate will develop much more happily.