What are signs of television addiction? What are the causes of telecommunication? Is it possible to cure from conversion? Answers to these questions you will find in the article.
Content
This is an amazing feeling that can later grow into
love. But why are one people, feelings bring joy, and the other
only pain and suffering?
Some hard to build relationships with the opposite sex.
Therefore, it happens or isolate yourself
from partners or «Flame in hopeless love», That is, man
Enters relationships.
Signs of telecommunication
They are as follows:
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Attention is directed only to feelings
and the actions of another, and not on their own. («That he or she thinks
or will do?» «How he / her lives?»);
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If you dig in yourself, then
will be discovered in a deep conviction that it is necessary to manage the situation
(save, help, act), and not give events in the life of another
a person to develop according to his will, and by the will of fate;
- Your self-esteem depends on the fact that the beloved person said or did not say, did or did not;
- You are needing to feed yourself with energy, inspiration, communicating with a person whom, as you think you love;
- Own life more and more in a dead end;
- Relationships are based on mutual expectations or rigidly fixed roles (if it is a matter of marriage);
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You often feel the feeling of devastation, sadness and even pain…
Causes of telecommunication
The reason for the addiction lies in
unsatisfactory relationships with the parents of the opposite sex in
childhood that meets and «Boys», and u «Girls». BUT
Also - unsatisfactory relationship with emotionally immature
parents and educators.
Many fathers do not pay due
attention to upbringing your daughters, do not take them, laugh at them,
criticize them for insufficient attractiveness. As a result, the daughter
such a father is formed persistent irrational conviction that she
not worthy of love and admiration for the persons of the opposite sex that she
must do something specifically, try to love and appreciated, and
did not take what it is.
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The boy also occurs
SAMONOMPROLY, Emotional Insecurity, Emotional
rigidity, suspicion of women, stiffness, if their
Mother herself is unhappy in the family, experiencing negative emotions,
dissatisfied with their share. A good mother combines
a leader woman who relies on himself while keeping solid spiritual
Rod inside, and external softness, attentiveness. And even if she
brings up the son out of marriage, in an incomplete family, not inclined «hang on
child» The role of her husband.
Get rid of coependency very
it is difficult because the copender is a reaction model to a significant
other person at the level of physical, energy, emotional
and mental tel.
I note that comparison is tight
a knocked complex in the form of emotionally sensual, psychophysical and
mental (in the form of belief) behavior in response
to meaningful, beloved person. Emotional copending is
trap, network in which we get in childhood. And this trap leaves
us in the emotional plan at the age of the child. So biographical
age can be any, and it turns out that inside us
Wounded child lives.
Get out of the trap can only be
years after you are aware that you react like
way and start consciously working on yourself.Often people to
hide internal uncertainty and their vulnerability, choose certain
Model behavior.
First Model - Competition Model,
in which you need to prove to all that I am better than others that I am worth love and
Recognition. This model is used to achieve social and
Material success. So a person thinks - I'm a lot
improved itself, worked a lot, tightening knowledge and money,
To fill the inner lack of energy. (Money - equivalent
Energy.) And in communicating with a partner of the opposite sex, a person can
Choose another model - avoidance model. AND
Applies it to get extra energy - attention
Due to Flirte. Thus, both models are tightened to you energy. That
there is essentially a person behaves like a vampire like a huge black hole.
But it is impossible to live like that, because no person can all the time
get, not giving anything in return.
How to cure from conversion
It is very important to realize that you are inclined to address. Then need to do the following steps.
First, try to install
Platonic relations with the opposite man. Such
Relationships are taught to manage its emotions and sexual energy, not
Identifying with them. You think the opportunity will appear
Nice to communicate with a person, to spend interesting together.
When you understand that this person
You like, relax and stop controlling feelings, though
for a short time. Just stop controlling feelings (and not
Emotions), and admit to yourself that you are worried. Stant simply
defenseless. And realize the start of establishing relationships. BUT
Then transfer attention to the partner and focus on its
attractive and positive features. And do not take anything!
Such contact will surprise you. In essence is
Net meditation. It gives rise to feelings that grow up, leaving
For the usual framework. Just imagine - deep
Relaxity, the charm of the attractiveness and beauty of the partner
merge in the feeling of satisfaction with their inner beauty and
ambient world.
But be attentive! If you are still
tend to addness, after such a short-term experience in
You will certainly wake up the dragon of fear, anxiety, doubts,
annoyance and irritation for themselves for what you allowed yourself to become
vulnerable.
«And what to do?» - you ask.
Just quietly return to yourself, look inside yourself. True
Contact do not hold. If you are experiencing more often and more often, it will cure
Emotional dependence faster than all other procedures.
Additional healing «internal
child» can bring more attentive attitude to your
needs and desires, hobbies and dreams.
Finally, you can learn to get
Energy in other ways: watching the beauty of nature, expanding
perception, communicating with friends, traveling.
And remember if you met the real
love, then she will not go anywhere - not every other day, nor through
Monthly. Live and enjoy life, every day of her day!
