Addiction is a disease that is very difficult to cope with one. Sometimes friends addicts can make much more parents. How to behave if your friend got into drugs? How to help him? Simple advice read in the article.
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Drugs are not a transitional age or a bad habit that can pass with time with time. If not treated, then chemical addiction is also dangerous as cancer. If someone has problems with drugs, it is not always clear what to do. Should we talk to him? Or it can better leave it one? Or call someone else to help?
Consider this. If you saw someone who had a heart attack, you will call a doctor. If someone has depressed, you probably try to listen to his problems. If someone wants to imagine himself, you will try to stop it. You will be next to him for himself. This is friendship.
It is difficult to remain another to those who do not fulfill the promises, forgets to call, learn money and never returns them, «Kaifuch», Instead of chatting with you, as usual. Maybe you and the uncommon, but your friend now needs you more than ever. Conventional fears «Do I need to get insolent?»
You know that your friend needs help, but every time you decide to talk to him, something keeps you. Maybe you do not want to inadvertently «Earl» or afraid to seem to him annoying or not enough «Cool»?
And if your friend conceived to end with him, and no one intervene that then? Then he can just go to the urgent or somewhere worse. Drug addicts are in the same situation - the problem is as serious and help is also needed. Chemical addiction is one of the main causes of leaving life. Your conversation with a friend can save him life.
Always not easy to speak with someone about his problems. Sometimes a person feels ashamed, guilty and even angry. Try not to save before negative reaction. Be to her ready. Keep in mind that the drug can very much to change your friend, make it irritable and plump. Concentrate on your goal; try to cause him to frankness. Do everything so that he believes that you want to help him and that's why you and him. You will be surprised, but you will find that your friend has expected your help all the time.
Before trying to influence anyone about his problem, get professional advice. Talk to the teacher, doctor, parents. Guarantee the privacy and confidentiality of the conversation. Talk to the usual language, ask the advice itself. It will help you navigate and choose behavior tactics.
Clean that the moment for the conversation is quite suitable. Start talking only if your friend is not «Be high», If he has a clear head. Otherwise the conversation still does not glue. Choose for a conversation such a moment when a drug took the day before and now feels a remorse of conscience, guilt when sensations are still fresh. Remember, you need not about a single incident, but about the lifestyle. Nothing if you can not explain from the first right. Better if you meet at neutral territory: in a cafe, park or somewhere else. Keep in mind that during this conversation alcohol is unacceptable.
If you know someone who can trust, for example, someone from the society of anonymous drug addicts, from his friends or family members, then you can try to attract them. Only make sure that they are competent enough in this matter.
Always talk calmly and carefully; After all, you are a friend and feel compassion. Do not build yourself connoisseurs. Do not start the conversation with the accusation of your friend in addiction to drugs. This can lead to what he closes and just leaves. Tell him about how you are worried and what do you feel when you see him «Be high». Show him your participation and concern. Tell a friend that you notice when he «Be high». Bring specific examples and convocate that you want to help him.
Be ready for the fact that he is angry, will deny everything and even a psychic. Your friend can be convinced that he has no problem, and can get angry. This is a typical response of drug users. Do not take close to heart, remember who exactly is your friend, and concentrate on the problem, and not on his position. Be ready to tell him information about where you can get help. Offer a friend to go along with him for advice or reception. He will see you care about him and that you are ready to spend your personal time and energy to organize the help you need. But offer yourself only if you are ready for this. If your friend has a serious problem, and you can not convince him himself that he needs help, turn to his parents, teachers or another to anyone authoritative.
It is impossible to ignore the fact that without the provision of the consequences can be very dangerous. Very difficult and even scary to admit that the problem exists, and ask for help. Your friend will have to realize that pain and that misfortune, which he caused himself and other people with his addiction to drugs. Often this is a painful process, it takes out of spiritual equilibrium. But while the friend does not realize that it is in drugs that all his misfortunes that he loses his friends and a sense of self-esteem, until he decides to change his life. When your friend will be morally prepared, let him know about those places where he can get help. You yourself will first go there and all exactly find out, write down the phone numbers, the reception time and the directions of therapeutic programs.
Regardless of whether you will choose your way of recovery or not, you must sense your decision to help him. The most important thing for you and your friend is to do something. Any attempt to help is a chance for recovery, and never late to start.
When your friend starts to be treated, he will have to go through many difficulties. He will have to spend a lot of time in the support group, in consultations, make new friends among recovering drug addicts. You can even doubt if he remembers about you and even appreciates your help. This is normal and typically for the recovery process, although you may not like. It may even seem to you that you have lost a friend whom you yourself launched on a righteous way. But most recovering people return to their old friends and their friendship becomes even stronger.
It doesn't matter how much you are concerned and how serious are your intentions, but exclusively depends on your friend, will he accept help. Decision to stop taking drugs should come from him. He must want it himself, personally for himself, and it will be a guarantee that he can withstand all the difficulties. You are not responsible for the success or failure of your friend in the process of treatment. All you can do is talk to him, show him how you dear to you, and persuade him to seek help. It is your care and support that can help your friend completely change his life.
