Who are they
«settle», understand the laws of the hostel, follow the rules.
Arrogance, audacity and at the same time helplessness
in elementary everyday situations. Stunning knowledge
In one area - and failures in other. Care
in yourself or incomprehensible lively where it is not expected.
Portrait of Sherlock Holmes? Who knows maybe a great detective, live
On our days, psychiatrists would have diagnosed «syndrome
People appeared on the light at all times. A few centuries ago
Humanity did not have the concept of tests, diagnostics
and the classification of mental abnormalities, so
about the mentally ills said simply that they are crazy or obsessed
demons, and mentally retarded called yurody or fools.
The rest should be responsible for themselves
Program. Villains, gleamy, cranks, cunning chips or others
condemned or endured, took or rejected, but treated
To them without discounts and softening circumstances.
The epoch first fired human strangeness and made social
rogue heroes of their leaders and poems. Lonely, not understandable
nobody, they received the status of geniuses and pride, whose misfortune
lies in primitiveness, trivialities and vulgarity of ordinary
Communication between peculiar, sometimes even exceptional abilities
and strange in everyday life is also not news.
That is why so often the achievements of geniuses were estimated only after
death: contemporaries were often avoided unpredictable, not similar
on them relatives, and preferred to stay away.
And if exceptional talents in people of this breed
did not happen or the interests turned out to be very unusual,
then they just walked proud, non-reflective or even dangerous.
The twentieth century brought the concept of «autism». So Steel
call a wide range of behavioral features involving
Difficulties in contact with the world. Different his forms are so
do not look like each other that they can only be conditionally
Combine into a group of general signs of social
Inadequacy. But this diagnosis can relate to
to man, almost completely turned off from communication
with the world, barely reacting to the closest, so
and to those who lead almost the usual life.
often work, children are growing, they make discoveries in science
And they are not suspected that their oddities
fold in some kind of syndrome. But at the same time the way
to mutual understanding with their surrounding
and difficult because one of the main
their features - «blindness» To social
and emotional aspects of human communication.
...The child offers a neighbor on the floor of candy. TOT, SESNESS,
refuses and says: «No thanks». By unsure tone
and the reserved eyes giving understands that in fact
wants to take, but not solved. And offers once again.
And the child with Asperger's syndrome in such a situation
reacts only for words: no - so. Not because,
that he is a worn or greedy, just all that is not named
words for him is not obvious. Such a child perceives
literally. He seems to feel that in the behavior of a neighbor
Something is wrong, but he cannot with confidence
to tell that.
«Asperger» There is peculiar «Blind spot» on that place,
where ordinary people constructed a hypothesis about other people's thoughts
and feelings. That «Blind spot» And there is diagnostic
Symptom for determining the syndrome in young children.
The test for which it is determined is a series of pictures.
For example, on the first one depicted two girls, a ball and two
Boxes, red and blue. Girls together hide the ball in red
Box. In the second picture one of the girls leaves
From the room, and the other rewinds the ball in blue.
In the next picture, the first girl returns. Question: Where
Will a girl look for a ball? Ordinary four-year-old child
will say - in red, she remembers that they were hiding there.
A child with Asperger's syndrome will decide that in blue. After all
He knows where the ball is now, and he does not come
in the head that others do not own this information.
Strange «slow wits» Not related to the fact that the child
think tight or inattentive. On the contrary, it usually possesses
high intelligence and often achieves amazing heights
In the fact that it is really interesting to him, whether it is a study
certain historical era, collectibles, mathematics
and natural sciences, or sometimes music or art.
«Asperman children» usually differ outstanding memory,
Ability to understand written text they have above average
(and oral speech, on the contrary, is much harder). Language
they are very specific and replete with stationery
and book turnover, they are inclined to catch everything
In details (Asperger himself called his patients «Little
One feature «Aspi», how they call themselves is that
their respect must be earned. They evaluate people for meaningful
For himself criteria, for them there is no concept of authority
teacher or just adult. Therefore, they often hear bold
and difficult students, despite the extraordinary abilities.
The most difficult «Aspergera» accounted for in situations that
hard or impossible «destroy» rationally, with one
Only intelligence. Where you need intuition and emotional
flair. You know, in children's books there are such «Mysterious
Pictures», on which the image is divided into numbered
Segments. Each number corresponds to your color. Until
do not paint the picture, it is very difficult to calculate what
It is depicted on it. So, performances «Asperger»
about emotions are akin to such an unwashed picture,
while an ordinary person has this picture
Initially color and quite clear.
People with Asperger syndrome perceive emotions as a side
product thinking, the value of which surrounding for some reason annoying
Exaggerate. Indeed, if the feelings are roughly divided
on nice and unpleasant (like numbers for even
and odd), then everything seems pretty simple: unpleasant it is necessary
Avoid, but to pleasant strive. However, life,
To amazement «Asperger», now and then mix all
Concepts, and sometimes in anxiety proportions.
Such children are lost when it comes to sympathy
and pity: pain - an unpleasant feeling, but at the same time
For another for some reason, it is considered «Good» In eyes
Educators. It is illogical, which means anxious and causes
Aggression. They may seem cruel or insensitive, and all
only because absolutely not understand how «digest»
painful emotion, and just deny her.
Highly, indifference and other sins that imputed
in wine «Aspergera», - These are ways to protect
from chaotic, aggressive and unpredictable world of feelings.
This, of course, narrows their circle of communication, from what, though,
«Asperger» not really suffer. They stretch to their
fellow in the warehouse of the person and often consider themselves just
representatives of another culture, another emotional race. In Our
Time thanks to the Internet such a circle of communication is easily located.
however, does not protect «Asperger» from universal
Properties of psyche: emotions, drove inside, give birth to high
anxiety. It is inevitably looking for exit - in aggression,
in special rituals to which people are sometimes inclined
autistic warehouse, and sometimes in somatic
manifestations such as heart disease, temperature, spasms
esophagus and other troubles that arise as if
In an open place.
Kids with Asperger syndrome require special support
and learning - thin, thoughtful and respectful. Usually
Work with such children is built on awareness: where
fails to understand intuitively, it is necessary to understand rationally
and memorize. However, logic is not always able to remove the alarm,
After all, much in the behavior of people is a reasonable explanation only
with difficulty and then not to the end. Here they can come
to the aid of various types of therapy associated with creative
classes and bodily practices.
Gradual promotion to contact with them, with their own
living feelings is a difficult and long way for «Asperger»,
But sometimes amazing things happen. Love, trust
and acceptance make wonders, and if there is
a real heart friend, be it a parent, a loved one or
Hot and passionate teacher, on the mysterious picture start
Robbly to come paint.
«Asperger» and society
People with Asperger syndrome differ from each other
on temperament and other personality features
no less than everyone else. Among them are good and evil,
conscientious and cynic and egoists. But at the same time
They detect a paradoxical combination of naivety
and incredulsity developed by this naivety. Losing,
they often use aggression as protection. And this
It is difficult to communicate.
can say offensive, tactless things simply because sincerely
does not understand the power of their impact on the interlocutor. If
You encountered such behavior, it is very right
And without offensive, designate their discontent and discomfort.
An adult intelligent person can always be explained why his actions
unacceptable, which means that next time
he may be able to restrain. Pointing «Asperger»
on the inadequacy of his behavior, it is better to look for rational
arguments or appeal to generally accepted courtesy standards than
Write to feel. For the most part they are emphasized
decent people who are important to respect themselves and if they recognize
your wrongness will draw conclusions.
They live among us, they have their own priorities and values, they
love the society of themselves like - and somehow study
with others. Sometimes they are lonely, and sometimes they are happy
and lead a full professional and personal life.
Neighborhood with them teaches us to respect someone else's space:
«Asperger» - The hottest fighters for their personal territory
And if possible, try not to intercelace.
It is important to remember that if someone next to you is not able to easily
demonstrate feelings or does not always know how to react
on yours, then this does not mean that he himself deprived
Emotions. Representatives of all human races and cultures, including
«Aspi», appreciate goodwill, attention and respect.
And have full right.
What does not need to be done in communication with «Aspergera»:
Never laugh at him. This people
Painfully proud. Little so they destroys them like a mock or
humiliation. The injury obtained may affect
and mental and physical health.
«Kid Asperger» More often clarify the meaning of innocuous jokes,
Support his own desire for humor. Develop
in it tolerance to laughter and tirelessly repeat that
You can always make it so that you laughed at it, but together
Respect his space. Autistic people
Warehouse love privacy and silence, own classes,
they are extremely necessary for their room where others can not be found without
Demand. Tell us «Kid Asperger», What respect for someone else's respect
personal space is expressed and in
do not take a new acquaintance endless conversations
on the themes of their passion. And do not avoid physical
Contact. With loved ones «Asperger» in their own way to support
Close relations. Sometimes it is not an embrace, but just sides
About the side or the opportunity to sow next to the book.
be patient. Try to become bay
Ceremoncy and stronghold of sanity. Get ready for many things,
associated with communication, you have to repeat in many times.
Remember and understand social rules «Asperger» Sometimes
It is not easier than humanitary learning to learn formulas and theorems. Wherein
Be emotionally relatives. Although «Asperger»
and do not like when they speak with an excessive pressure
and with exaggeration, but sincerity and compliance
words emotions are very important. Try as you can express all that
associated with feelings, while avoiding manipulations. Speak more often
About your reactions: «When I'm offended, I sometimes even
I do not want to talk - and you too, really?»
Praise and speak compliments.
Do not skimp on the words of support and adoption:
«I love when you smile», «I am pleased that
You help me». Try to share your joy, mark
His social successes. Despite the external indifference, they
literally absorb the praise of those who trust and this
They are motivated. But raising «Baby Asperger»,
Do not make it outstanding abilities with the object of your vanity.
He may be unpleasant when they boast before the neighbor.
In addition, he is so inclined to blow up. Therefore, it is important
emphasize the advantages of other people, noting not only
mind, but also kindness, responsiveness and other spiritual
Play more, fool, do any creativity. And children,
and adults «Asperger» seek to implement in different
types of creativity, many love to experiment with words
and meanings, imitate a different style or participate
in scenic productions. When we do, we are released
Alarms and fears. Let the man and not such a way,
like others, and sometimes it's hard with him, but you know what
Interesting and deep person lies in it. Let family
will be the place for him where it will grow and flourish
in warm and trust.