The path of a man to 40 years depends on the motivational orientation. There are 4 basic behaviors that men use upon the occurrence of the fortieth anniversary of the crisis.
Realized man held crisis 40 years of almost unnoticed, because most of his needs and desires have come true.
Psevdorazvity man apparently cope with their problems and makepretend that everything that happens it meets, or at least under its control. In fact, he feels that he has lost direction, at an impasse, or that he was sick of everything.
Man in confusion. It seems to him that his whole world collapses. On the one hand, he is unable to comply with its requirements, and on the other - his own needs are also being met. For some men, this crisis may be a temporary period of failure, while for others - be the beginning of a continuous fall.
Dispossessed fate. Such a person was unhappy or reject the other most of their lives. Usually, he is unable to cope with its crisis problems.
It is believed that society forces menfollow the same pattern of success and masculinity, most men do try to match it. A number of problems in men in the middle of life arise precisely from the fact that they are trying to come to terms with the idea that they do not meet this standard, or due to the fact that they are forced to give up many of their own desires, trying to achieve compliance with it.
The successful achievement of maturity at the age of 40-45 yearsIt requires significant 'emotional flexibility "- the ability to change the emotional investment in the relationship with different people and different activities. Emotional flexibility is needed at any age, but in a period of forty, when parents die and grow up and leave the house the children, it is especially necessary.
Another, also very necessary kind of flexibility - it is,so to speak, a spiritual flexibility. Among the middle-aged people tend to "harden" in attitude and in actions, to ensure that the make their minds closed to new ideas. This closeness is desirable to overcome the mental, or it will turn into fanaticism or intolerance. Furthermore, tight fitting errors and lead to the inability to perceive creative solutions to problems.
Successful resolution of the fortieth anniversary of the crisis generallyIt includes the reformulation of ideas in a more realistic and restrained point of view, as well as awareness of time constraints, each person's life. Family, friends, and children get to all men of great value, while its own "I" is increasingly deprived of the exclusive position. The increasingly growing tendency to settle for what we have and think less about things that probably will never be able to achieve.