There is on the playground, where we are with my daughter 4 years old we go to play, one boy, Alyosha. He's 5. Say that he is very active - it's nothing to say.
Just for those almost 2 years, that we go there, I have never seen it, so that he calmly play in the sandbox, shook on the swing or just sat down next to mom at least 2 minutes.
This is a hurricane, whirlwind, tornadoes - such comparisons can be selected. He does not go - he runs. And always. Spinning-spinning, stumbles-falls, pushes, rushes than it fell, in the end, knocks out of his strength, and with hysterics I leave my mother...
When we see Alya on the site, we try to wait when he leaves. Other moms among themselves said that Alesha was already led to a psychiatrist and diagnosed him «Hyperactivity»...
What is no attention deficit syndrome with hyperactivity?
There are generally two different options. This, in fact, a painful state, in which the help of a specialist is necessary, and features of character, temperament and child education.
The disease is called attention deficit syndrome with hyperactivity (ADHD) and has clear signs:
- can not save attention during the game and when performing tasks;
- often «does not hear», What they say does not have any problems with hearing;
- does not bring started to the end;
- often loses things that are not born every day - toys, school supplies;
- It is difficult for him to do anything;
- easily distracted;
- Forgetting in the usual everyday situations;
- constantly in motion, even while eating;
- Always and does everything with noise;
- Makes ameless movement;
- says a lot;
- answers questions without thinking;
- interferes with the other, interferes with the game and talk;
- can't wait, stand in line.
If these signs are more than six and they are observed six and more than a row, the likelihood is not a character and temperament, but a painful state requiring the help of specialists.
In addition, children with ADHD simply cannot control themselves, they can not stop and calm down, do not react to prohibitions and comments, often impulssive and aggressive, do nothing to the end, quickly distracted and get out of the forces, they say quickly and many, ask Millions of questions, but they do not listen to them, clumsy (drop, break things), sleep well, they often have intestinal disorders and enuresis.
How to distinguish just an active child from hyperactive
There is a simple way: if the child behaves the same everywhere - both at home, and away, and on the street, and in a unconscious atmosphere, and in the children's team - it requires the help of specialists (children's neurologist, psychologist, psychiatrist). Consult, after either calm down and make it right to upbringing (about it below), or confirm your doubts and are treated according to the recommendations of doctors.
If the child is only at home noisy restless and active, and a guest is sitting «like mouse» - it's rather, the characteristics of such a child.
It was this situation that I had with my child. Neurologist advised, said that this is not a disease, but a temperament such; Psychologist gave recommendations.
Why this state occurs? Is it related to upbringing?
Such questions are worried about all parents when the child is diagnosed.
Number of children with ADHD, unfortunately, grows every year. And now they are estimated from different professionals from 3 to 10%. Boys among them are five times more than girls.
The reasons for this state are not fully known, but:
- worsening ecology;
- infectious diseases of the mother during pregnancy;
- pathological childbirth;
- Generic injuries...
... play an important role in the development of this state.
With not enough tough education (as some parents think, the child is not just «Pucks» and «Does not listen») This is not due to the tightening of punishment measures only worsens the situation with the behavior.
«If you scold me and say that I'm bad - you then learn how bad I can be!» - this is the result.
What is the main problem of children with ADD and what to do about it?
The main problem is that such children cannot adapt in society. Due to its impulsiveness, uncontrolled aggression, such children ignore generally accepted rules of behavior, harmful to themselves and others. What inevitably leads to problems. With development, learning, communication.
And further. According to statistics, 80% of people who are in places of imprisonment were hyperactive children. Think about it and do not postpone the treatment. It will not pass by itself!
How to help parents to help such a child?
I have the most active child. This, thank God, only such a temperament, but is suitable for children with a diagnosis of ADHD. And we taught us a psychologist, how to contact her, to still live a little.
- Try before something to demand from the child, establish contact with him.
Touch, take hands. Look in the eyes and then talk to him. Why do it?
Because when the child is busy, passionate, playing - he is all there, in his experiences, and he does not hear you.
It really helps - I take a daughter by my hand, I look into my eyes, saying that I needed it to do, and in most cases it helps.
I also want to say our website to readers, which is important to adhere to the sequence of actions, break the challenging tasks for a few simple - so the child will be easier to cope.
How i apply it? I'm talking: «Let's save the children's room. First we drag the bed. To do this, we correct the sheets, pillows covering the bedspread. Then we collect toys. Typewriters - in the box, dolls - for the puppet table, cubes - in the box». And so, until everyone is removing.
My daughter, for example, loves to help prepare dad breakfast. And literally melts from pleasure when I praise it for it. And half a day mood good.
After all, you need adequate parents, though? Then think a little about yourself.
Health and patience to you and your children!
