What is vaginism? What are the forms of vaginism? How to treat vaginism? Read the answers to questions in the article.
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Vaginism
Every woman is afraid to do «This» for the first time. And if it is not in
first? If a thousand times the fear of pain, the feeling of awkwardness,
discomfort do not pass, make internally shrink and bring almost
Before fainting? Here, experts believe, there is every reason to talk about
Diseases that are currently suffering about 3% of women.
The subconsciousness has a much greater influence on our life than us
seems. Sometimes a person himself does not recognize how much it can be
strong impression left by one or another. And perfect
It is not known how this impression will affect his psyche in the future.
«Skeleton in the closet», carefully searched with their own fears and
insecurity in herself can turn into a real monster,
interfering full, healthy and happy life.
«Madly I'm afraid of closeness with a man, because when trying to sex
Contacts experiencing terrible pains reaching convulsions in the legs and even
Short-term loss of consciousness. The thought of sex for me becomes
Unbearable. What is happening to me? Why can't i feel
Full woman?»
«I am 24 years old. Permanent partner. When 6 years ago I decided
starting a sex life, it turned out that I really hurt when trying
any, even insignificant touch to my genitals, up to
The impossibility of continuing intimacy. Now at every intercourse I
I feel wild pain, the first minutes tolerate, literally grieved my teeth.
After some time, everything passes and then there is no equal account
sensations».
This is how women suffering from vaginism describe their condition.
The problem of vaginism, according to specialists, is psychological
character. It happens, of course, that this reaction of the female organism
arises due to the improper structure of genital organs, various
diseases of the sexual system. But then doctors classify it as
pseudovovaginism.
«Most often vaginism
Women arises with increased excitability prone to neurasthenia,
obsessive states, change, emotionally unstable», -
Candidate of psychological sciences, sexologist Yuri Levchenko. - W
I was a patient who lived in 6 years in «virgin marriage»
(virgogamia) and did not have sex contact with her husband. Woman
he said that when trying to perform sexual intercourse covered
Panic horror accompanied by painful spasms. No help helped
Tranquilizers nor alcohol. About contacting this question to
specialist, there was no speech. The lady scared alone the idea that
Someone learns about her problem. In the end, her husband persuaded her to turn her
to the doctor. After a couple of months of psychotherapy and special techniques
Relaxing a woman got rid of his fear. But here arose
Another problem. Her spouse for so many years of defective sexual sex
relations appeared signs of neurosis of waiting, so I had to
work and with him».
Forms of vaginism
Sexologists distinguish between several forms of vaginism in women.
A form of vaginism in which a woman is experiencing an insurmountable fear
Before sex intimacy, is phobic. Woman can be perfect
Realize the unreasonableness of your fear, can adjust yourself to
positive, but, nevertheless, it is unable to overcome it. Impatience I
Requirement of partner «relax and enjoy» in this
case only aggravate its position. The feeling of its inferiority
bring the woman to despair and drive in new complexes.
The basis of phobic vaginism is a very durable connection between fear
and sex act. Such a form of vaginism, as a rule, suffer ladies, in
principle prone to phobiam. This is not the only fear. They also
may be afraid of darkness, type of blood, and stories about «nightmares» defloractions can cause real panic.
Another common form of vaginism is hysterical. For her
Characterized mechanism «Fleets in the disease». Usually hysterical
Vaginism is aimed at the nature of genuine sex with
Specific partner. It can manifest as consciously and
Unknowingly.
The reason can be a marriage with an unloved person, some qualities in
partner who cause disgust and interfere with normal sexual
Life. Since selectivity is the main motive, then
There is hysterical vaginism with a change of sexual partner.
Doctors joke that vaginism is a consequence of a hysterical woman's union
and a mnicious man. However, there are quite serious reasons,
which in one degree or another can affect the development of the disease.
We all come from childhood, and often it is wrong sex education
girls can inspire her fear or aversion to sexual experiments in
Future. If the woman is raised to the attitude towards sex as something
dirty, shameful, or negative reaction due to negative
example of parents, then it is unlikely to make a right look at
sex. For parents is not a secret that their
Little children are interested in floor issues and their sex
organs. In childhood, punishing girls for masturbation, touch
Genitals can cause a subconscious psychological clamp in
Future. Therefore, the child should never scold or report
Similar things, wise parents most likely will simply switch it
Attention to another subject.
Vaginism can also become the result of gross behavior of sexual
Partner, violence or painful defloration. In this case, the brain
Women remembers a negative experience and under subsequent contacts
Subconsciously triggers the protection mechanism - muscles involuntarily
painfully decrease in anticipation of pain. That is why vaginism more often
just pursue young girls.
But it does not mean that it can not arise in any other
Age. A woman having a sufficient sexual experience can also
Become a victim. Vaginism can develop after childbirth,
By virtue of the established problems with sexual contact. He can become
consequence of the age reduction of libido, insufficient moistening
Vagina, as well as strong psychological stresses and disorders.
The whole thing in the head
To the treatment of vaginism, specialists are suitable with extreme caution and
Attention. «Vaginism if we exclude physiological factors, has
Psychological roots. Therefore, the task of the doctor is to
Very delicately penetrate these deep layers of the unconscious and
Together with a woman to work out all the reasons», - Says Yuri Levchenko. -
I want to emphasize that this ailment is easy to treat, the main thing -
understand and eliminate the cause of disorder. Today there are a number of techniques
By relaxation, removal of muscle clamps. The main method of treatment
is rational and suggestive psychotherapy, as well as special
Training aimed at eliminating fear of sexual act and
associated involuntary muscle contraction and hips information.
It is necessary to convince the woman that the best solution to the problem is not a refusal
from sexual life, and her early».
Woman prone to vaginism may not guess his
Disorder. Most often in sex it compensates for others
ways of self-realization, soothing themselves because sex for her is not
the main thing. Often this behavior is associated with sexual culture. Not
the secret that many ladies, especially the older generation, are raised by
Principle «Woman sex is needed only to give birth», so
they consider their condition as the lot of all representatives of weak
floor.
In many ways, a woman's behavior model and a successful solution to the problem depends
and from a sexual partner. Sexologists recommend male to seek
Golden middle. On the one hand, in no case to put pressure on
Partner on principle «Terepi, everything was painful», On the other - not to try
cultivate the problem as indecisiveness and excessive
Softness can serve a bear service.
In any case, facing the problem of psychological vaginism, not
It is worth allowing reason to play with you to the game. Try to make the first
step, boldly looking at your eyes in the eye.
