What is the copendion of relatives of alcoholics? Is there a way out of this situation? Answers to these questions you will find in the article.
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Situation
dependence, very often torments the question - and is it unnoticed for
herself drinking something to plunder or pour into the food so that
and forever lost interest in the taste of alcohol? Actually, such funds
there is, but their use is prohibited by the Criminal Code, since they have one
An unpleasant side effect - along with interest in alcohol, they take
life because are poisons. And other equally effective
drugs medicine has not yet invented.
In addition, in any
Their case would have to plug-pour every day to
maintain the desired level of blood medication. The thing is that
Alcoholism, as a disease, has one very unpleasant
feature - while the patient himself does not want to get rid of the addiction
To the bottle, nobody can help him, even the most qualified
doctor.
Moreover, on the background of daily stress from staying near
with a very drinking close man, his relatives develop
Such a state as co-dependence).
What is the copendion of relatives of alcoholics
This word
and the concept for the Russian ear new and unusual. Indeed, in our
country it appeared relatively recently, although abroad, mainly
In the United States, talking about television and write since the 70s of the last century.
If
Distract from strict definitions, briefly the essence of the phenomenon can be explained
as follows: Alcoholic depends on alcohol, and its close -
From the alcoholic itself. Most often, spouses suffer from advantage
and children. They try to constantly control the behavior of a drink,
«dedicate their life to salvation», giving up this idea with fanaticism
and frenzy, without a rest. In fact, such behavior is only
exacerbates the situation and does not contribute to the formation of an alcoholic
Motivation for treatment.
Coupling is different from ordinary care and concern for loved ones
It is its pathological character, irrationality
and the impulsivity of actions coined, decreased by an emotional background
(sometimes it is characterized as «Emotional recess») as for
Alcoholic, for co-dependent characteristic of the negation of the problem,
self-deception, delusion. In the case of long-term comparison can
Forming and physical (or rather, psychosomatic) diseases.
Basic
In the opinion of the majority of foreign and domestic
specialists - low self-esteem. Sources it can be somewhat -
most often it is formed in people who themselves have significant
Problems in childhood (unfavorable family, alcoholism of one or both
parents, physical and psychological trauma received at school
And on the street). Often the source of violence that contributes to incarnation
self-esteem, becomes for your loved ones and drinking itself. In this case
may be formed so-called «vicious circle», break
without qualified medical and psychological assistance from the outside
Practically unreal.
If you try to imagine
Capacity in the form of a graph, it turns out a sinusoid, then the outgoing
in negative emotions (soup, beatings, scandals), then rising
in positive (sober gaps, when an alcoholic is trying to smooth
and somehow compensate for physical and psychological damage caused
His loved ones).
The most interesting thing is that co-dependent can
make yourself sessions of desperate self-criticism, but if the criticism comes
From outside, there are splashes of unmotivated irritability or even
Aggression. They also have a paradoxical reaction to praise or
compliments - people are learned adequately take them, happens
Only the deepening of guilt.
Co-dependent strive to control
and paint the behavior of all family members, believing that they know better,
How to act in one situation or another.
Surprisingly,
such a model of behavior pushes a drinking at all to the thought of treatment,
on the contrary, he feels and understands what is almost always, in any
Situations will be able to thread forgiveness in one way or another. Tying
Certain positive glasses, alcoholic necessarily disrupts and will lead
in the breakdown of their coined loved ones. Continue like this can enough
long - depending on the state of health of the drinking, as well as stock
patience and physical health of his relatives. Outcomes can also
differ, but they all have a negative shade.
Thus,
any disease of pathological dependence - whether it is alcoholism,
addiction or gambling - destroy not only the identity of the very
Patient. The whole life of the dependent is busy with thoughts about alcohol, drawn
«dose» or slot machines. Gradually occurs mirror
reflection of the disease in relatives, and wife, mother, girlfriend, sister or
Brother starts intrusive trying to put the patient's behavior
control, and in all spheres of life.
Is there a way out of this
Situation
There is. It is also complicated and the help of a psychotherapist will need,
And the whole family will be involved in the treatment. However,
A qualified specialist is able to cope with such a situation.
Help can also provide specialized programs «Anonymous
Alcoholians», aimed at work with relatives of drinking.
but
easier not to enter a similar situation than to get out of it, for sure
just like any disease is easier to prevent than to treat. And, again,
Compected competent psychotherapeutic assistance. If you turn
for her at an early stage, there is an opportunity not only to prevent
disaster in the family, but also under the guidance of the doctor, develop
Right tactics of behavior. Joint efforts of all family members can
Create in the family such an atmosphere when a person drinking is really
Wanted to get rid of a detrimental habit.
