Middle-aged crisis is a sufficiently heavy test and for men, and for women. In psychology, it is called existential - that is, associated with the revaluation of life goals, values, meanings. Read more in the article.
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The path of development of a man by 40 years depends on its motivational orientation. There are 4 main models of behavior that men use when the crisis of the forty-celli.
Imported man the crisis of the 40th anniversary is almost unnoticed, since most of his desires and needs have already embodied.
Pseudo-developed man externally copes with your problems and pretends that everything that happens satisfies it or at least under his control. In fact, he feels that he lost the direction, I went to a dead end, or that he is all sick.
Man in confusion. It seems to him that his whole world collapses. On the one hand, it is not able to comply with the requirements of it, and on the other - its own needs also remain dissatisfied. For some men, this crisis may be a time period of failures, and for others - to become the beginning of a continuous fall.
Disadvantaged by fate. Such a person was unhappy or reject others most of his life. It is usually unable to cope with its crisis problems.
It is believed that society forces men to follow a single sample of success and masculinity, most men really try to match him. A number of problems in men in the middle of life occur just because they are trying to get rid of the thought that they do not meet this standard, or because they are forced to refuse many of their own desires, trying to achieve compliance with him.
The successful achievement of maturity at the age of 40-45 requires significant «Emotional flexibility» - Ability to change the emotional contribution to relationships with different people and with different activities. Emotional flexibility is necessary at any age, but during the period of the fortieth, when parents die and grow up and leave the house children, it is especially necessary.
Another, also a very necessary type of flexibility - this, if you can put it, spiritual flexibility. Among the people of mature age there is a tendency to «hardening» in views and in actions, to making their minds closed for new ideas. This mental closure is desirable to overcome, otherwise it will turn into intolerance or fanaticism. In addition, rigid installations lead to errors and inability to perceive creative solutions.
Successful resolution of the crisis of Sorokhaltia usually includes reformulation of ideas within a more realistic and restrained point of view, as well as awareness of the limited lifetime of each person. Family, friends and children acquire more value for men, while one's own «I» Especially deprived of exceptional position. The trend is increasingly intensifying to be content with what is and less thinking about things that will most likely be able to achieve.
