If a relative becomes disabled - it's hard. But doubly harder when a child becomes disabled. How to explain to him that he is not like others? How to behave with him? Look at these questions in the article.
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Under the category of children with disabilities, preschoolers with a very wide range of innate and acquired during the early development of diseases and abnormalities. These can be various ugliness and disadvantages of physical development, and may be externally indistinguishable anomalies, which are not suspected of the patients themselves.
Mental, mental development of such children is no different from the development of their peers. Moreover, these children are not involved in age, most often have signs of giftedness. For example, during the attacks of asthmatic choking, they do not write children's poems or, being chained to wheelchair, miraculously pose from clay, make original drawings. Nature seems to compensate for the fact that it was not like these guys.
Psychology of children with disabilities and their parents
Preschoolers even with implicit signs of disability to three years begin to realize their difference from the surrounding children and adults. Therefore, the formation of their internal I acquires a specific character. In humans, disabled children demonstrate excessive storage, try to do everything, as it should be, in every way to avoid all sorts of violations. Thus, they are trying to prove others that they are not inferior to them that they are not worse than them.
Children in constant contact with disabled people quickly get used to the peculiarities of their appearance and behavior, they willingly communicate with them, are sincere interest. Therefore, the problem is more lies in the negative plants of parents and the closest relatives of children with disabilities. Moms and pars of these children often feel the feeling of guilt in front of their offspring for not able to reward them with full health. Becoming a protracted, this feeling can be expressed in particular concern about the fate of his child, excessive care, or excessively indulging in his whims. Another expression of this problem is depression that accompanies periods of deterioration of patients of children.
Parents, experiencing fear for the fate of the kid, transfer it to the child. Intuitively feeling the constant tension of adults, preschoolers acquire the traits of nervousness, outbreak. Painful doubts of many dads and mothers about whether the child knows about his illness and how hard it is hard, in vain. Indeed, Word «disabled person» nothing adds to the daily sensations and experiences of the guys. From understanding of their status, they do not get better, nor worse.
Children rather suffer from the awareness of their insolvency in something that is the norm for others. They are experiencing due to numerous prohibitions and continuous admonitions from adults. Public humility and displacement humility of such children can be replaced by heavy hysterias and whims, when they remain one on one with relatives and loved ones. Their coarse, sometimes aggressive trips to parents are a reaction to their excessive custody, concern and fears.
Proper behavior of parents of a disabled child
It can be optimal to be considered to be the behavior of adults, which allows children with disabilities to adapt faster to their position, to acquire features that compensate them. Egoistic love of parents seeking to protect their offspring from all possible difficulties, prevents them from normal development. Disabled children are in dire need of parental love, but not love-pity, but the love of altruistic, taking into account the interests of the child. The baby will have to be further not the easiest life, and, the more independent and independent it will, the easier it will be able to transfer all the difficulties and adversity.
Children in question do not need to be prohibitions, but in stimulation of adaptive activity, the knowledge of their hidden opportunities, the development of special skills and skills. Of course, cover your eyes to the fact that the baby is seriously ill, it is impossible. But also constantly keep it under the glass cap is also not suitable. The smaller the attention of the patient will be concentrated on it itself, the greater the likelihood and success of the interaction of it with the surrounding. If parents manage to teach a child to think not only about themselves, then his fate will work much more happier.
