"Balzac Age"


What is the mid-life crisis

The crisis experienced by people in the area of ​​40-45years: it is the revaluation of all that was accomplished in your life at this time. The man often denies or destroys something sought for years, during which put a lot of effort. Either the person becomes acutely experience the inconsistency: as a rule, the age of forty perceived discrepancy between dreams and life goals of man and his real position. And if twenty people is seen as a promising, then forty years - this time the performance promises made long ago.

The severity of this crisis depends on severalfactors. People are ambitious, with a high level of claims experience midlife crisis sharper than others. Most importantly, as the previous crisis was resolved - thirties. Many are trying to move through the psychology of the youth phase of maturity threshold - and this is the cause of neurosis. After the age of forty begins a marked decrease in physical strength, decreased vitality, decrease in sexual attraction.

Balzac ageChanging social roles: If to a certain point person (with all its independence) was aware of myself as a child of his parents, the parents at this point, many die, are helpless.

Comes the realization that the life and propertypasses: life no longer provide loans for future. One heavily on the understanding that all vertices will still not win. Others suffer from the fear of not manifest itself in something important, remain unfulfilled, believe that life gives them a last chance: it was during the mid-life crisis people are desperate to unexpected things that surround describe as "gray in his beard - a lusty" .

The successful resolution of the crisis means the transition tomaturity, a certain wisdom of life; forming a human desire for efficiency, to care about the next generation, the thought of his contribution to what is happening on the ground.

If the crisis is not resolved, likely stagnation,accompanied by a sense of desolation. A person may begin to indulge their whims, assume that their growth and development stopped, and represent the remaining life in the form of a giant black hole.

Mid-life crisis can easily becomea springboard for the new take-off, the so-called second peak vitality. He contributed to the emergence of many great people. Gauguin began his career artist in 39 years, after gave up his job at the bank. For Goethe's trip to Italy, undertaken between 37 and 39 years, completely changed the state of mind that had an impact on his works. Michelangelo in the critical age has changed the style and quality of their work. And we know a lot of such examples - some of the science or business go into politics, others begin to engage in charity, and some art, etc.

However, do not necessarily dramatically changeyour life - you can continue on the same path. But at the same time to evaluate those years, to understand what we need and what is not, and most importantly, take your old ways, but consciously, and continue to increase quantitatively what has been achieved.

It is important to understand that a mid-life crisiscertainly facing all of us. After all, even Dante wrote: "Earthly life passed before the half, I found myself in a dark forest." Thus, the crisis - it is absolutely normal phenomenon which has its own reasons, regularity and purpose. A person must consciously go to another age generation, to recognize that there are objective physical age limits, that of the opportunity lost forever, many never to return, and many never do. And to this "never" be treated as a harsh but reality. However, it is important not to lose the valuable and what is in the present, including his age benefits: you achieved a lot, and you know how much you know and much can.

Mid-life crisis - one of the most powerful ofIt requires the person to carry out an audit life. And if otodvigut this problem and not solve it, then at the end of life can overtake even more frightening crisis, prepared a person - crisis at the end of life.

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