Forty years is that age when it is too late to be a beginner who gives hope late to marry and get married, to start children. Now the crisis of middle-aged or mid-life, namely the so-called this phenomenon, quite frequent phenomenon. Read more about this in the article.
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This crisis is experienced by people in the area of 40-45 years: it lies in the revaluation of everything that was achieved in life by this time. A person often rejects or destroy what he sought for years, which put a lot of strength. Either a person begins to sharpen his inconsistency: as a rule, by forty years aware of the discrepancy between the dreams, the life goals of man and its real position. And if a twenty-year-old person is seen as promising, then forty years is the time of execution of promises, data was once a long time ago.
The acuity of this crisis depends on several factors. Ambitious people with high levels of claims are experiencing the crisis of the mid-life is sharper than others. But the most important thing is how much the previous crisis - thirty years. Many are trying to transfer the psychology of the phase of youth through the threshold of maturity - and this is exactly what is the cause of neuroses. After all, by forty years begins noticeable decrease in physical forces, a decrease in vital energy, a decrease in sexual attractiveness.
Social roles are changing: if until a certain moment, a person (with all his independence) realized himself a child of his parents, then at this point the parents die from many, become helpless.
The awareness of the fact that his own life passes: life has ceased to issue loans for the future. One hard to understand that all vertices still do not conquer. Others suffer from fear do not express themselves in something important, to remain unrealized, believe that life gives them the last chance: it is during the crisis of the middle of life People despair to unexpected acts that surrounding characterize as «Sedna in the beard - the demon in the rib».
The successful resolution of the crisis means the transition to maturity, to certain vital wisdom; forms a person's desire for productivity, to care about the next generation, thoughts about their contribution to what is happening on Earth.
If the crisis is not allowed, probably stagnation, accompanied by a sense of emptying. A person can begin to indulge in his whims, assume that the growth and development of them stopped, and to represent the remaining life in the form of a giant black hole.
The crisis of the mid life can easily become a bridgehead for a new take-off, the so-called second peak of vital activity. He contributed to the formation of many great people. Gaugugen began his artist's career at 39, after he threw his job in a bank. For Goethe, the trip through Italy, undertaken between 37 and 39 years, completely changed the state of the soul, which affected his works. Michelangelo at critical changed the style and quality of their works. And we know many such examples - one of the science or entrepreneurship go to politics, others begin to engage in charity, third art and t.D.
However, it is not necessary to radically change your life - you can continue to go through the same way. But at the same time, it is necessary to evaluate the lived years, to understand what we need, and what is not, and, most importantly, take your previous way, but already consciously, and continue to increase the quantitatively what has been achieved.
It is important to understand that with the crisis of the mid-life certainly faces each of us. After all, Dante has written: «Earth life passing to half, I found myself in a gloomy forest». So, the crisis is an absolutely normal phenomenon that has its causes, patterns and purpose. A person needs to be consciously move to another age generation, recognize that there are objective physical age limitations that part of the possibilities are irrevocable, never a lot to return and not much to do a lot. And to this «never» refer to the harsh, but reality. However, it is important not to miss the valuable thing in the present, including its age advantages: you achieved a lot, you know a lot and you can and you can more.
The crisis of the middle of life is one of the most powerful, from requires a person to conduct a life audit. And if you pick up this problem and not solve it, then at the end of life can overtake another more awesome crisis prepared by a person - the crisis of the end of life.
