How do children get into sects? Are there signs that the child is processed that it is retracted to the sect? Answers to these questions you will find in the article.
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So what roads lead to sects? First, emotional disadvantage in the family can become an extremely significant factor in the family. From here - the conclusion is the first: the main insurance against entering the sect is the parent love - Love is unconditional (that is, without terms: they say, I can love you, but only if you are…), the love of parents to the child is simply because it exists. And also - his acceptance with all its shortcomings and weaknesses, the formation of a child's feeling that the family is - in any case, the place where they understand it, appreciate and respected. From such a family in the sect not run.
The second reason is the crisis transferred by man, the emergence of the situation, when the whole world is destroyed: the death of a loved one, a disease, a loss of social status and similar events that are similar to this, are deeply experiencing and sometimes leading to loss of life.
The third reason is a kind of spiritual vacuum that exists in our society recently. For a long time - is it bad, well - but the place «traveling stars» Ideology occupied in our life. Pioneer, Komsomolia, with all their shortcomings, gave a big plus to children - a certain idea and purpose. The viability of this idea is another thing, but many ideas in youth are generally viable? In many ways it was, of course, the extreme. Now the pendulum turned to the opposite position - that is, towards complete freedom from any ideas. However, the holy place is not empty, therefore, deft and unkind people quickly took advantage of this circumstance, seeking to fill the vacuum in young heads for their own purposes.
The fourth reason is the so-called loneliness in the crowd, the disunity of people who has become familiar already when around «Nobody needs anyone». And even if everything is fine in the family, a person is social, and he wants to fit into society, and at the present time this task is not easy.
Next reason - Natural aged thrust for self-knowledge, interest in all unusual, mystical, than artificially enjoy the organizers of sect, applying active and implicit propaganda, popularization of mystical, irrational ideas and lows for life. The smaller the person has a life experience than the border of his world, it is easier to influence, pressure and brainwashing.
Psychological factors contributing to the involvement in the sect are also credulity, naivety, anxiety, shyness, infantility - all this makes children more susceptible to the beautiful speeches of recruiters. It is noteworthy that children from prosperous families are easier to peck «Fishing rods» with bait from promises abilities, influence, success, children from disadvantaged families who have passed a harsh school survival, susceptible to suggestion much less. However, these children also fall into sects - in search of good, cleanliness and meaning of life.
Often mistakenly believe that people are extremely religious in sects. It's not like this: deeply believers are less susceptible to the influence of sects, because they are firm in faith, and the moral rod they have strong. The sect gets the one who is in a state of stress or conflict with himself and with society, but at the same time more others need the understanding and acceptance of others.
Nothing-in signs
Are there signs that the child is processed that it is retracted to the sect? Yes.
First, it should be alerting the appearance of numerous, colorful brochures, posters, books and magazines that someone gave the child for free, with a view to «Enlightenment», Or inviting some free educational event to some free educational event. Sectarians use all sorts of shirms up to the free study of English (explain to the child in time that free cheese is only in a mousetrap, but excessive obsessiveness of new «Friends» should alert him first). Also should be alerted the appearance of discs with specific music (sometimes interpretable incomprehensible text) - music of the tight, astringent, so-called «trance» Rhythms.
Attention requires a sharp change in the child's behavior - you should think about and understand if the child is sitting in the prostration clock, looks at one point: in the window, on the wall, especially - for some new, unusual item or portrait (especially - cult character). Were too much if the child is mourned at the same time or simply moves his lips, swinging from side to side. Very seriously, if the child begins to start talking about the meaning of life, about good and evil, while his views dramatically disagree with adopted in the family and worry the nature of the knowledge clearly introduced.
It should not be ignored if a large number of items appear in the house, to which the child used to be indifferent: candles, signs, amulets, aromatic substances; And also if the style of clothing changes dramatically, a way to leisure and a circle of friends.
Many parents who collided with a sectarianism on the bitter experience of their families know that it is extremely difficult to pull the child from there: he runs out of the house, disappears in the sect for months, and it is not known not only how he is removed from there, but and where he is in general.
If there is such an opportunity - it is necessary to apply to psychotherapists, it may be possible - to radically change the place of residence. Do not try to distribute the guru yourself or how it is called there, as well as the sect as a whole: in sects to such conversations with native children are specially prepared, and all your attacks will be perceived as evidence of not your rightness, but the right of teachers. That's what you will need from you - this is sincere, warm attention, acceptance, soft and unobtrusive discussion of its present and future. However, this process should be prepared for the fact that this process will be long and painful: a whole psychotechnological machine works against you.
Therefore, the only conclusion to this article can be the old truth: who is warned - he is armed. Being warning about the dangers of sectarianism, your child will be careful in contacts with strangers and do not buy on bait «Good people». And parents, being warned, will show maximum attention and understanding to their child from the very beginning, which will not allow the search for the heat, acceptance and meaning of life with a child on the side.
