Of course, no woman, no matter how defining it, does not deserve rape. Nevertheless, the frivolity of some female species is worthy of censure. There are several myths created by modern women and extremely harmful safety.
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Myth number 1. «It will not happen to me»
Say that we come across ignorance is impossible! Daily with blue screens, with pages of newspapers and magazines We get warnings and visual examples of terrible and cruel crimes. Why do not learn?!
Each victim, even if the neighbor is on the landing, - «it's still not me». «This will not happen to me!» - Exclaims woman, experiencing fate once again. And when, in one is not too beautiful day, it all happens, shock overlaps the pain from the injured injuries: «How could this happen to me?!».
They say, warned - it means armed, but it seems that some women do not work this principle. There is a thousand and one way of proper behavior in potentially dangerous situations, they are not stored for seven castles in secret laboratories of the special services, they say about them, they write, they are taught at school. Only all this remains a dry theory that flies out of the head when it comes «Moment of truth».
Is it easy to calm down and take yourself in hand when an animal fear dries mind and intuition? Yes, not easy, but perhaps if you are subconsciously ready for this. Do not close at home with the onset of darkness or hire bodyguard cohort. You can arm, but you need to be able to use weapons. To do this, first of all it is necessary to realize that sad fact that it can happen to anyone, and you may not become a happy exception.
It is considered that these are maniacs, people with a sick psyche or asocial personality. Of course, there are such. But if it were only in them, statistics would not scare us so impressive numbers. Indeed, with many mental illness, sexual deviations are observed, but they are expressed rather in increasing sexual appetite and inadmissions in sexual relations than in an open tendency to violence.
Moreover, many sexual perversions have ceased to be dangerous due to certain moral legalization in society that has occurred thanks to the long-awaited sex revolution. So where does the danger come from? No matter how paradoxically sounds - from simple, normal, if you can put it, people!
These are the people with whom we live under the same roof, we go in one transport, go on one streets. And if you think that the rapist is a bommer, an illiterate subject, which is registered in a psychdispere, you are deeply mistaken. It is more often a well-dressed, an interesting young man who persistently offers you to pass.
Myth number 3. Where «to find» rapist?
The fact that the danger is waiting for you by the bush - this is another fatal confusion of a modern woman. Recently, a completely different scenario has become more relevant: «Random acquaintance - joint time - rape». Doubtful guided, new friends, random drivers offering to pass - they are all the same sources of danger as sexy maniacs hiding in dark alleys. And if the chance to meet the maniac relatively small, then «ordinary» rapist we celebrate daily.
Do not lose vigilance and when communicating with well friends. As practice shows, anyone can act as a rapist: and an old friend, and a work colleague, and a neighbor in a party.
Myth number 4. «I have already come out of this age»
Very many women, having heard about rape, only attractive young girls become victims of rapists. And I, they say, already out of that age when you can get into a similar situation. Yes, and in general, «such» Men do not pay attention to me, they are even afraid of me.
Well, justice for, it should be noted that the considerable part of the victims of rapes is really a girl from 16 to 25 years. First, they, by virtue of their appearance, attract people who are thirsting for instinct satisfaction. Secondly, they are quite naive and trusting, so they are much easier to deceive them. Thirdly, suppress the moral and physically young girl to the rapist is much easier than mature, experienced and severe woman. Yes, in most cases it is so. Most but not in all.
As it is neither regrettable, no more age, coming out of which a woman can feel safe. Statistics argue that about a third of rapes fall on minors, and 2% of victims are women older than 60 years. It all depends on the situation and from the rapist.
Even an adult woman may be subject to violence from a random traveler, threw alcohol, work colleagues that long ago «put an eye on her», or groups of juvenile zadakers dug drugs. And the consequences may be much worse than. For a mature woman who held this is like shock.
She does not know how to handle it. Is afraid to tell someone. And if children know about it? And how will the husband react to it? What will affect familiar? Fear of crawling cozy, familiar life can easily bring to a mental breakdown, and even before suicide.
Another myth is the attitude towards rape as an evil rock, «God's kara», peculiar punishment that cannot be avoided. Naturally, it is not. Rape may be subject to any woman, and her karma here is absolutely nothing to do with. Just some behave more carefully, not falling across traps and without provoking the situation. And others themselves go to the fate of the villain and sweat on the evil rock.
In fact, most rapes could be easily avoided if a potential victim chose the right line of behavior. Naturally, no one claims: «Herself, they say, to blame». In such a situation, there is only one culprit - the rapist, and to shift even part of the victim's guilt unfairly. But maybe instead of going to the situation, it is better to try to take it under control? Count not on the horoscope, fortune or god, but only on yourself.
